tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post891626180692515450..comments2023-10-15T09:43:55.241-05:00Comments on Kacirek Family: He Sets the Lonely in FamilyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02357543546549982759noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-1416441836937082992013-04-28T22:54:25.992-05:002013-04-28T22:54:25.992-05:00I'm in an odd place. US born, family had far m...I'm in an odd place. US born, family had far more money than honest love, and I'm forever damaged - from 5th to 12th grade, I saw my mother and step father 24 days, from 10th - 12th, I saw my dad 98 days - has left me wondering about attachment disorders. The majority of ours have issues, no doubt. A lot I can recognize as the bitter uncertainty if any person loved you, would care if you're gone or even notice that.<br /><br />I know my kids do better than I've done on that.<br /><br />But, our 14 year old. She's a delight every day. She enjoys being a teenager. But, there is no denial that while she's friendly, she doesn't bond with others. In two years with our family, she's improved, yet normal relationships are not improving. <br /><br />All we can do is make sure she has access to needed services, teaching on independent living, teaching her to guard her value and worth and most importantly, pray.<br /><br />She's a joy to raise. She's a nightmare. She's giggles and smiles. She's screaming fits and tears. She's her Daddy's princess. She ties her Daddy in knots of fear.<br /><br />I wouldn't trade her for anything. She'll turn into a good and responsible adult, and that's enough.<br /><br />Our only hugger? He hugged because the seizures felt better after a hug. Right medication, he still runs to hug Daddy when he gets home, but no indiscriminate hugging. Seizure activity still leads to the needed comfort, but that's what the alert dog, cuddled up to him offers freely. Two unwanted boys found exactly what they needed in each other.<br /><br />In the end - these children are in our home because that is what God told us. Pretty sure that may be the only advice to be sure to follow. Plus, no matter how rotten a day was, it sure is better than a quiet, immaculate house for DH and me and children left to die for being different. Because tomorrow can always be better now, there was no better before. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11646641464399911720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-70230578723151520212013-03-23T12:29:00.558-05:002013-03-23T12:29:00.558-05:00Beautiful post. It shows your love AND your knowl...Beautiful post. It shows your love AND your knowledge. Nothing worth doing is ever easy. But giving your true love and attention to these truly needy children will be rewarded. Perhaps not in this life, but by God in heaven.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-73025933572034551812013-03-23T08:37:58.356-05:002013-03-23T08:37:58.356-05:00This is the first time I have read your blog, and ...This is the first time I have read your blog, and I normally would not comment but wow - what a beautifully written answer. Thank you for being so gracious in sharing this gentle wisdom in response to a very patronizing comment that smacked of judgement and hostility and would have set my hair on end, if this was my blog. The light of God in your heart really shines through your words; I don't think a better response could have been had :)Keelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09816883990461834553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-78404744212674843962013-03-10T20:27:35.838-05:002013-03-10T20:27:35.838-05:00Thank you for your updates. I enjoy reading your ...Thank you for your updates. I enjoy reading your blog. I thought your response was well thought out and although I am not a critic, I was educated by your post. I am looking forward to the future posts sharing about bringing home this precious child. :)candabaldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03550082546777239805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-88046641551559850572013-03-10T09:13:49.684-05:002013-03-10T09:13:49.684-05:00What a beautiful response. Thank you for taking t...What a beautiful response. Thank you for taking the opportunity to teach through your experiences. And no matter, the picture of you with this beautiful child is full of hope and love and compassion. Real love, hope and compassion. Hugs.Lisa L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02597465904895958385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-57228010620464394882013-03-10T08:33:17.383-05:002013-03-10T08:33:17.383-05:00Why do strangers on the internet think they have t...Why do strangers on the internet think they have the right to question and criticize you and your children? I don't get it and I really hope you don't take the negative comments to heart, Tina. <br /><br />All I can think is they are jeaous. Jealous of your beautiful loving and giving spirit. Jealous of your beautiful children whose love for their parents, family and life shines through every ounce of their being. I just have to look at the smiles on your children's faces and the life and vibrancy shining through their eyes to know they are in the right place! <br /><br />If people want to criticize and negatively comment, I say let them go do what you're doing and just try to do it better! (which would be difficult!) Until then, keep the negativity to themselves and focus on buiding you up and giving you more strength and encouragement to do what you're doing!AmericanMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15774674520938189242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-66507922257493786652013-03-09T16:15:32.414-06:002013-03-09T16:15:32.414-06:00Very thoughtful response. It is indicative of att...Very thoughtful response. It is indicative of attachment issues. But you are on top of things, you have the knowledge. I will tell you, going through HUGE attachment issues with my newly adopted (in process) 16 year old son who just came out of 5 years in foster care, it is beyond rough when from the start every hug and sign of affection and love is rejected. <br /><br />I find the indiscriminate clinging a sign of the longing of his heart, and a sign that things will progress in positive directions! <br /><br />His heart shines in his face. How could his abundance of joy at this moment not make him CLING to the ones he sees as saving and coming for HIM?!! Answered prayers! Hope renewed!! It is a beautiful thing! Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00780602398588917246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-82212556252646304292013-03-09T15:28:54.420-06:002013-03-09T15:28:54.420-06:00This was an excellent and informative response! I ...This was an excellent and informative response! I am so thankful for your gracious answer.<br /><br />Christie Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738612207150868577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-77995214434669258562013-03-09T14:32:35.414-06:002013-03-09T14:32:35.414-06:00Milena, They are doing beautifully! If you will m...Milena, They are doing beautifully! If you will message me privately at gracehavenministries@gmail.com I will be happy to send your info on to them to see about having you follow their journey!! Blessings and thank you for the encouraging note. I look forward to hearing from you!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357543546549982759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-69518741585097437952013-03-09T14:17:17.004-06:002013-03-09T14:17:17.004-06:00Such a beautifully written informative reply, fill...Such a beautifully written informative reply, filled with insight. Indeed very helpful for those of us considering adoption! Thank you!<br /><br />As much as I like your updates about Cephas (please keep them coming!) I still wish to ask if you have any piece of news about the family adopting Victoria and Gillian? I would so much like to know how they are doing too!Milenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18042828734758536970noreply@blogger.com