tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post3689632171605778192..comments2023-10-15T09:43:55.241-05:00Comments on Kacirek Family: My Response to a CriticAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02357543546549982759noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-80715359631492967652015-12-21T13:38:46.374-06:002015-12-21T13:38:46.374-06:00I used to doubt why people adopt too, i don't ...I used to doubt why people adopt too, i don't know why but for a few years I actually understand, and more than anything, I think it's people like your family who actually get IT, you are the ones who really get why we are on this earth and what we should be doing. Wishing you many more children, you can save the ones you have and may you continue to love as many as you canDanielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279010386822131444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-10307376661284842102014-01-12T13:44:43.025-06:002014-01-12T13:44:43.025-06:00You have such a beautiful family! Thank you for sh...You have such a beautiful family! Thank you for showing such grace in your response. How sad that so many are not able to understand that God brings our children to us in many different ways. May we all open our hearts to the blessing of adoption & caring for orphans! God Bless YouThe McDowell'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14833989153840161709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-56496676313605235592014-01-11T13:16:06.973-06:002014-01-11T13:16:06.973-06:00Children are children no matter where they come fr...Children are children no matter where they come from! Your words were gracious and true--not everyone is called to adopt, but those who are don't ask these kinds of questions. They just love the child they are blessed with! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-89608910176044788852014-01-11T11:50:05.168-06:002014-01-11T11:50:05.168-06:00Well said- and I hear God's words thru your wo...Well said- and I hear God's words thru your words! Thank you for expressing Christ love to others better than I - God's abundant blessings to you & your family!!! A fellow birth/adoptive mama to 7, & Gma to 5 :)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17907706198962959132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-30956248159118489022014-01-11T08:40:42.887-06:002014-01-11T08:40:42.887-06:00Such sweet truth in your words. I fought hard to b...Such sweet truth in your words. I fought hard to bring our 4yr old daughter home from Africa despite her medical condition. <br />God granted us 33 beautiful days with her before He called her home, giving her a new body that is not broken. <br />We were chastised and condemned by Anonymous for taking our daughter from the only life she knew in the orphanage and bringing her to the US to die alone.<br />I thanked them for their concern for our daughter and assured Anonymous that our sweet baby girl did not die alone. For 33 days we extravagantly poured out love, comfort, joy, fullness (no more hunger), and never ever left her side.<br />We are forever changed by her and our family loves deeper, reaches out to those in need, and has deeper roots in Christ because of her.<br />No, Anonymous, it was exactly the best thing for our baby girl and maybe some day you will do the same for a child who longs for a family. <br />--love the Gorman Gang, mommy of beautiful Zia, Eliana, and A (joining our family soon). Brendaourcrosswalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12105450367333669725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-70665070996843454602013-05-16T04:38:31.125-05:002013-05-16T04:38:31.125-05:00Thank you for saying this so much better than I ca...Thank you for saying this so much better than I can! We don't have biological children, I have parts that don't want to work and mental (creating a child in a lab disturbs me on a personal level, 9 months of strict bed rest is terrifying), physical (that much invasive treatment again bothers me more than I can explain) and financial (not covered by insurance, level I need is hideously expensive) reasons for not trying to change God's will because we can still wind up less offensive than the ideas that only x type of child is valuable and to do everything against God's will and plan and force the creation of a child when there are countless children who just want a home. I'm thrilled for those who are blessed with biological children, no matter how they join a family. But it's not for my husband or me. God placed children in our hearts, that's enough.<br /><br />As for why not adopt domestically? I don't know. We aren't against the idea, but it hasn't been right yet. EE has been. Part of it is that foster children do need better care frequently, the children we knew God planted for us in EE have so very much promise and LIFE with us when they had nothing and no future. The same problems facing my children get at least some treatment here, it may not be the best, but it's still some and most are fully educated - my kids were laying in rooms with nothing and waiting to die.<br /><br />No child is of higher worth than the next. It matters not how they joined their family. Absolutely, yes, there are days I wish I had a physically and mentally healthy child. But the children God wants in our crazy, patchwork, mishmash of a family are worth all the appointments, hours in a surgical waiting room, the tears and tantrums, all the problems because it's pretty much fun.<br /><br />There's something to be said for a 17 yo who was worthless 10 years ago come home and bring his sister a really cool pair of shoes that he knew she'd love because they match her wheelchair. He was right, I can barely get her to take them off.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11646641464399911720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-45365593408581143102013-04-11T21:37:10.504-05:002013-04-11T21:37:10.504-05:00You got the "speak the truth in love" th...You got the "speak the truth in love" thing down pat! Your response was so encouraging, thank you for sharing it. May God continue to bless your beautiful family!<br />Mattie PattersonMattie Pattersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01982736190114976957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-21228599303843158282013-03-09T10:41:54.722-06:002013-03-09T10:41:54.722-06:00 My oldest bio son was severe special needs from t... My oldest bio son was severe special needs from the ages of 6 to 15 due tp a Rx drug reaction. It was suggested that I have him declared permanently disabled. I said I would not give up hope, not quit trying.....ever. I home schooled him all the way to college. Today he is a sweet husband and father. Today he is in Med school getting a doctorate in neuroscience! .......because God knew the plans He had for him, and because he had a mommy who NEVER gave up, no matter how difficult the road was for years and years.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09658407734056631360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-25541005161599742562013-03-09T00:42:02.865-06:002013-03-09T00:42:02.865-06:00Jen, Thank you for your support and kindness. Ea...Jen, Thank you for your support and kindness. Each of us have our own unique purpose and its a blessing when we can see that in those around us. It's the beauty of life. I pray strength and joy over you as you walk out this healing journey with your hubby. I'm thankful he has such a tender wife and mother to his children. You are modeling faithfulness beautifully to those who are looking in. Your children are seeing such beautiful love as you have nurtured your husband. The words of critics might sting for a moment but the Truth of knowing His love in our lives is like salve to that sting. We know that not all will see as we do. Love to your beautiful family!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357543546549982759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-85536513370056111912013-03-08T04:24:34.859-06:002013-03-08T04:24:34.859-06:00I have to wonder what would bring about such a res...I have to wonder what would bring about such a response from your critic. I wandered over here from Smiles and Trials, and I am DAILY inspired by Christine's gigantic heart and the amount of love I see in her family. And I assume that this is the same for your family - these children come into an atmosphere of unconditional love, and they learn to give unconditional love. So not only are your adopted children getting an amazing gift - A FAMILY! - but your bio. children are learning that family is much larger than they can comprehend. Sometimes, when I read Christine's blog, I feel sad, or maybe even "guilty" that I don't think I'll ever be in a situation where I could adopt any more children, especially ones with special needs, but there is such a need. However, God has called me to my own service, and yes, even suffering. My husband had a stroke 2 years ago, and he is still trying to regain the full use of his left arm and leg. That may not nearly be as much as some of your orphan children deal with, but it's my cross, and I always have to work on loving my children and caring for my husband in a better, more Christ-like way. My point is, that when someone makes comments about your motives, I believe there is most likely something behind those comments - something in their own hearts that makes them desire the kind of love and selflessness you have for your family. May you continue to be such an inspiration and a witness to all of us! Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00281420407748540105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-65504692885290741502013-03-06T15:08:29.455-06:002013-03-06T15:08:29.455-06:00Beautiful post. You're amazing, as always! P...Beautiful post. You're amazing, as always! Praying for y'all on this adoption trip, knowing He will pour out every blessing and handle the details! <3 Love from Bama!Wife; Mom to the Sixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13138056030574696509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-25730625697719052242013-02-09T09:40:42.375-06:002013-02-09T09:40:42.375-06:00Incredibly well-written! Thank you for the perspe...Incredibly well-written! Thank you for the perspective. Yours is a paradigm I'd like to live from. Holly and Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07120285230521006849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-31743262177279706892012-11-02T20:19:22.054-05:002012-11-02T20:19:22.054-05:00Best post ever! This post is so amazing. Best post ever! This post is so amazing. Amanda Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01253674443885149637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-8881312949776642142012-11-01T23:14:46.679-05:002012-11-01T23:14:46.679-05:00Simply beautiful.Simply beautiful.Andrea Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13046230301366777760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-84826860004247544292012-11-01T11:17:33.935-05:002012-11-01T11:17:33.935-05:00I too am a parent of bio kids (5) and 2 adopted (o...I too am a parent of bio kids (5) and 2 adopted (one from China and another from Cambodia, praise the Lord!) I love your gracious response. YSIC, DLdramadonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374225590822144334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-46108259097560790852012-11-01T10:58:56.120-05:002012-11-01T10:58:56.120-05:00Beautiful, beautiful response. Beautiful, beautiful response. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03581047535737544938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-28085103963560158562012-11-01T08:50:28.377-05:002012-11-01T08:50:28.377-05:00Thank you. Perfectly said from a Christ-centered ...Thank you. Perfectly said from a Christ-centered mom.M. Brooke Breezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03640237609996740813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-41773659325498558872012-11-01T07:02:38.495-05:002012-11-01T07:02:38.495-05:00This is a fantastic response, Christ-honoring and ...This is a fantastic response, Christ-honoring and "seasoned with grace". Thank you for taking the time to address a detractor. I have, too often, dismissed those sort of challenges on my own blog. I see clearly that your children, those currently in your home and those yet to come, are headed for life with a Mama who loves them fiercely and defends them graciously!N.E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05926459625595466455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-62618948376753344012012-10-25T07:28:53.549-05:002012-10-25T07:28:53.549-05:00This is so beautiful - your gentle response (yet p...This is so beautiful - your gentle response (yet powerful) is full of love. So glad to have stumbled on your blog. God bless you in your current adoption journey.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11619502336449892332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-64298153125387806612012-10-22T13:38:39.526-05:002012-10-22T13:38:39.526-05:00We have also felt the call to adopt from EE, and a...We have also felt the call to adopt from EE, and a close relative has confronted us with worries and concerns...one of which was the one Anonymous said, that folks in developing countries hope that gullible Americans will adopt the kids they have thrown away...the relative loves us and is worried that we will are setting ourselves up for a lifetime of hurt and uncertainty and ridicule, and that people will (like Anonymous) wonder why we turned our eyes to someone outside of our country, while there is such need here. All I could offer is that whenever someone discovers they are pregnant, they too may be in for a lifetime of uncertainty! I believe it was Erma Bombeck who said that to have a child is to have your heart walk around outside of your body...definite possibility for hurt there. I know the spirit in which they spoke--love for us, and a wish to see us spared pain and heartache--but I have seen, and I cannot look away!<br /><br />You answered Anonymous beautifully!Melissa (& Billy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10183754075992969795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-24230587720214614532012-10-10T23:14:00.046-05:002012-10-10T23:14:00.046-05:00You are fantastic! Beautiful response. Praying f...You are fantastic! Beautiful response. Praying for the safety and quick adoption of your newest sweethearts.Kim and Ronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520881314018999911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-3790190599660721432012-10-10T21:31:15.683-05:002012-10-10T21:31:15.683-05:00Thank you for your truth and faithfulness. Praying...Thank you for your truth and faithfulness. Praying for your adoptions. Very well written - to God be the glory! Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00336794930701815183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-25299791403152310762012-10-10T02:22:40.214-05:002012-10-10T02:22:40.214-05:00You are good as gold. What a beautiful response!You are good as gold. What a beautiful response!Milenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18042828734758536970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-59662724279049133272012-10-09T20:55:16.093-05:002012-10-09T20:55:16.093-05:00Tina, family members pleaded with us not to adopt,...Tina, family members pleaded with us not to adopt, and then they threatened. I just published a book about the experience that gives all the glory to God. Moments when you believe God is speaking to you are difficult to describe. My moment hit me with the force of a hurricane! And I felt a "call" again to tell my story in a book that was just release about two weeks ago. I hope you will read it. I am not hoping to become rich or famous. I just want people to grasp the truth that God’s plan for our life is infinitely greater than the little lives we plan for ourselves. I want any profits to help with adoption grants. Take a look at the back cover, the introduction, and first chapter to see if it might appeal to you and your circle. <br /><br /> http://www.amazon.com/But-Greatest-These-Is-Love/dp/1462402542/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1349832208&sr=8-1&keywords=but+the+greatest+of+these+is+love <br /><br />May God continue to bless you. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15288265187656256106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5833206877719513345.post-41495291512248459892012-10-09T20:06:46.645-05:002012-10-09T20:06:46.645-05:00Tina, I love your heart so much! Beautiful words....Tina, I love your heart so much! Beautiful words. Of course you know where I stand on this subject...we were told several times in Ukraine that we were crazy to adopt that throw away kid, who at 15 was broken-hearted and had all but given up on God. Not so anymore!! He's a wonderful young man today, that loves his family, and we love him. Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02197734625053684032noreply@blogger.com